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Pornography use and access
Look at when and how you use pornography, the role devices and online access play, and the changes you want to make.
Pornography recovery coaching
Has pornography stopped feeling like a choice?
If pornography use has become hard to control, secret or harmful, you can begin to understand the pattern and take a practical step towards change. You do not need to have everything figured out before asking for support.
✓Concerned about pornography use
✓Ready to change a hidden pattern
✓Finding a way forward after discovery or relapse
What we work on
The parts of life pornography has started to affect.
People come to this work for different reasons. You may want to stop using pornography, feel more in control of your choices, or work out what to do after someone has discovered your use. We start with what matters most to you.
Sessions are one to one and online. We focus on the concerns you bring and build a practical plan around the changes you want to make.
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Urges and routines
Identify the times, feelings and situations that make use more likely. Build other ways to respond and routines that support your goal.
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Secrecy and accountability
Consider what you have been hiding, what honesty would look like now, and who, if anyone, can offer appropriate support.
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Personal consequences and recovery
Work on the effects on your time, wellbeing and relationships. If there has been a discovery or setback, focus on the actions you can take next.
How coaching works
Set a goal. Take action. Review your progress.
We start with what you want to change about your pornography use and what progress would look like in your daily life. Together, we turn that into a realistic goal and specific actions you can take between sessions.
Each time we meet, we look at what you did, what helped and what got in the way. Then we decide what to continue, what to change and what you will do next.
You choose the goal and take the action.
I bring questions, structure and honest accountability.
I bring questions, structure and honest accountability.
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Choose a goal
Get clear about what you want to be different. We make the goal manageable, so you have somewhere practical to begin.
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Take action
Agree steps to try before the next session. These might involve changing a routine, setting a boundary or asking for appropriate support.
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Review and adjust
Look honestly at what happened. We build on what worked and change what did not, including when there has been a setback.
About the coach
I know what it is like when pornography stops feeling like a choice.
I have lived experience of pornography addiction: secrecy, shame, crossed boundaries and serious personal consequences. Recovery has given me a way to live differently.
I have been in active recovery for several years, completed a structured recovery programme and continue to participate in Twelve Step recovery. I also support other men through peer recovery and sponsorship.
I have worked in learning and development for over 20 years, including coaching people to set goals, take action and make lasting changes. That experience shapes my practical approach to coaching.
Everyone’s journey is different, but many of us recognise the secrecy, shame and frustration of wanting to change. I bring my own experience of recovery, while focusing on your goals and what will help you move forward.
●Lived experience of recovery from pornography addiction
●Extensive experience hosting recovery meetings and supporting other men through sponsorship and accountability
●Over 20 years in learning and development, including senior L&D leadership and coaching people to achieve practical goals
Is coaching right for me?
A practical layer of support for recovery.
Coaching helps you set goals for changing your pornography use, take action and review your progress. It may be useful on its own or alongside therapy or peer support, depending on what you need.
Therapy can provide treatment for mental health difficulties or trauma. Specialist services can assess and manage risks that need clinical expertise. We can talk about whether coaching is the right kind of support before working together.
Coaching may be a good fit if you want to
- change pornography use that feels hard to control
- turn your intentions into practical actions
- build routines and accountability
- move forward after discovery or a setback
Other support may be needed if you
- need treatment for trauma or mental health difficulties
- want couples or relationship therapy
- need a specialist assessment of risk
- need urgent or crisis support
More about the boundaries of coaching
Recovery coaching does not provide therapy, medical care, crisis support, legal advice or specialist assessment of risk. If there is a safeguarding concern or a serious risk of harm, I may need to share relevant information with an appropriate service. We would discuss confidentiality and its limits before starting work.
Get in touch
Start with a free conversation.
Use the form to request a free 20 minute introductory call. We can talk about what you want to change and whether coaching is a good fit. If we decide to work together, I will explain session fees, confidentiality and the coaching agreement before you commit.
Share only what you are comfortable putting in an initial enquiry. We can talk about your goals on the call.
Request an introductory call
Please keep your note brief and leave out explicit details. Read how enquiries are handled before sending. This is not a crisis service.
One to one online coaching · Adults 18+